This is how my hubby views my day;

  • take kids to school
  • have house to yourself all day
  • pick up kids from school and take kids to after school activities
  • too much time spent on facebook
  • What have you done all day?

This is how I view my day;

  • World War 3 trying to get 4 kids under the age of 10 out of bed and to get ready for school
  • Make lunches
  • Sign school forms
  • Get school uniforms out of my bedroom, as the kids don’t have cupboards in their rooms and when I allow them to get their own uniforms out…it takes forever and they make a big mess
  • Remind daughter to get her musical instrument for school
  • Remind other kids to put their homework in their bags
  • Help 5 year old put on his socks, as he hates socks as they feel funny and it is a pretty emotional task for him (I try to ignore it)
  • Referee about 8 verbal arguments between kids over who got up first, who is not eating their breakfast, who is playing XBox, whose PJ’s smell of pee, who is breathing on me….
  • Put first load of washing on for the day
  • Get breakfast out onto the table for the kids
  • Give pain relief to the kid who is slightly sick, but not sick enough to stay home
  • Listen to the other sick kid tell me they can’t go to school today, because they will use up all the teacher’s tissues
  • Wipe a snotty nose
  • Do my daughter’s hair
  • Get the kids into the car…it may sound easy!!!
  • Drop kids off at school
  • Kiss them all, wish them a happy day
  • Remind them to hand in school notices and homework
  • Tell the kids not to be late at pick up time as we have swimming ASAP after school
  • Walk 5 year old to class, as he is a Preppie
  • Drive home or go food shopping
  • Clean up kitchen
  • Put clean dishes from dishwasher away…I know it doesn’t take long…but bloody hell…the list does go on..
  • Clean up bathroom
  • Clean up house as I go along from room to room
  • Hang out first load of washing
  • Put on 2nd load of washing before hanging out 1st load – need to get at least 5 loads done today, before picking up the kids
  • Start cooking dinner – a fresh, healthy and home made vegetable and chicken soup – takes time
  • Get dry clothes off line
  • Fold clean clothes and put away – I gave up ironing many years ago!
  • Make homemade school lunch box snakes – muffins, anzac biscuits, jam drops, rice salad etc
  • Feed the dog
  • Water the new vegetable seedlings
  • Spend about 30 minutes doing work for my volunteer role at the kids sporting club
  • Spend about one hour doing book work for my husbands business
  • Pay some bills, balance the bank account
  • Sort through the mail and complete mail requiring to be addressed
  • Spend about 10 minutes pulling prickles out of 4 pairs of socks
  • Pack towels, togs, thongs, swimming goggles and afternoon snacks into bag
  • Take garabe out
  • Feed dog, again
  • Go to school early for either school parade, as the kids like it when I go or do volunteer activities or reading with the class or watch one of the older kids do sports at an oval the other side of town
  • Pick Up Kids from school
  • Drive to swimming lessons
  • Drive home from swimming lessons
  • Unpack bags from swimming
  • Try to organise kids to do homework, they just want to play
  • Warm Up dinner
  • Do home reading with kids, help with homework, sight words, help with project material sourcing
  • Organise kids for showers – hell task
  • Be nice and pleasant to hubby or a fight may start
  • Listen to hubby as he has important work stuff to extract out of me
  • Plate up dinner
  • Get dessert
  • Organise kids to brush teeth etc
  • Spend time with kids before bed
  • Put kids to bed, check temp’s, administer pain relief if required
  • Listen to kids complain about school, what I have to do for them, what they need tomorrow, what is happening this weekend, why can’t I go to the party with big brother…
  • Put some kids back to bed, tell kids to stop talking and go to sleep
  • Start on kitchen dishes from dinner
  • Clean kids drink bottles and fill again for tomorrow
  • Clean lunch boxes
  • Will pack lunches tomorrow morning cause I am rooted
  • Try to go to sleep and not think about the rest of the things I need to do tomorrow and try not to over think the issues I have to sort out with the kids behaviours, school work etc I know I have forgotten more things I got done today….just let me check my diary notes
  • Listen to hubby tell me I never have time for him…he needs sex more then what I am giving…now I feel like a piece of shit

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mind doing the crap I do everyday, as it could be worse! I have never had to be a working mum. I had my career before having kids and when I stopped working to have kids, I started working for my hubby’s business from home. So I have never had to do all the above, plus go to a workplace for an employer. Now I am guessing that would be challenging. At least I get to stay in my PJ’s with messy hair and no make up at my workplace, and I can start dinner and get loads of washing done. I am sure that no matter what the way, each one must have it’s high’s and low’s.

All I know is that I don’t like being criticised for what I have achieved throughout my day…it is my day and I will do it as I see fit. But wait, why do I still feel shitty and guilty? Should I be doing a better job? Is my hubby right? He is a good man, a hard worker and provider. He is always missing things with the kids because he is away working. Food for thought. Perhaps I need to look at walking in his shoes for a week and see how I feel then. Respect coming around perhaps. xx

 

 

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